The thing that makes having two women in my head okay is that they both answer to one man (outside of my head).
The one who wants to travel and reserves hotel rooms and plans a family vacation gets brought back down to earth about financial reasons this family of 5 living off of one income cannot afford said vacation by that man. (When she is not too sad about not getting the vacation she does feel sad for him that he must say no, she knows he hates having to say no to her whimsical ways.)
The woman who wants chickens gets told no by that same man. He reminds her of her already overflowing schedule and how adding more to it is stupid. He is right and she knows it but honestly it still makes her sad not to have these types of experiences with her children.